I don’t say thank you enough. I suspect most others don’t either. It’s important to show gratitude- it costs nothing but can strengthen relationships.
So thank you readers for being loyal and spreading the word about this site.
Specifically thank you Martin for your feedback and championing the site.
Thank you to my editor, my wife, Cindy.
We all look forward to vacation. It’s a time to relax and enjoy ourselves. There’s just one problem- we spend the week before vacation packing, making arrangements and making sure work is taken care of. Then we spend the week after vacation unpacking and catching up. So we basically sandwiched our relaxing vacation between two hyper, active periods.
So you’re saying “at least I’m enjoying my vacation”- right? Wrong! Some people spend their vacation running to catch every tour- how is that relaxing? Others may take a “relaxing” vacation on the beach. But let’s think this through. After working hard all year and being extra active the week prior to vacation, is sitting and doing absolutely nothing for a long time good? All their creativity and energy is wasted. And just sitting isn’t necessarily giving enjoyment. Energy cant be stored from vacation and brought into real life.
The problem is there’s no balance. No balance the week before- too much activity. No balance the week after- too much to catch up on. No balance on vacation- too much or too little activity during the vacation. The solution, of course, is better balance.
Balance With Smaller Vacations
Instead of going on long vacations consider taking numerous long weekends as vacations. It allows you to have frequent balances against your daily grind. Plus you wont miss much at “work” being out for a short time.
Balance Your Long Vacations
Include a day on each side of your trip to pack and relax at home (and/or do some errands). This will allow you to start your vacation leisurely and transition to real life at the end your vacation. This way you wont need a vacation after your vacation.
Balance Your Leisure
A resting vacation (e.g. sitting by the pool) doesn’t have to be all vegging. Challenge yourself to swim some laps or have other fun in the pool- giving you some exercise. (Plus if you keep eating out this will help keep the weight off). Also have a pad next to you at all times. Now that your brain has a chance to relax you’ll find yourself more inspired with more ideas than ever.
On my recent vacation I did this and came up with this article and other solutions to problems I’ve been working on.
Balance Your Itinerary
Just because you are in a foreign city it doesn’t mean you must spend every waking minute exploring it. Do touring as long as you enjoy it- you don’t have to see everything. Take some time to “relax” also. On relaxing vacation don’t sit at the beach till the last second which would cause a stressful run to catch your plane.
Balance Your Bad Days
If you’re feeling stresses by your day to day- just take a random day off. Just sleep late and treat yourself to some rejuvenation and fun. It will give you an instant productivity boost.
So relax and enjoy your vacation.
This is a guest post by Winston Cole.
Soon we will celebrate another new year. Let us be honest but positive, we are not getting younger. While we all wish we could maintain the healthy bodies of our youth, as time goes on our metabolisms start to slow and our weight starts to increase. We stop processing cholesterol and fat as well. If we donâ€™t get the right vitamins we can feel miserable for an entire day.
When beginning to notice such feelings, we can start by changing our diet. But keeping to a new diet can be very difficult. Choosing the right foods for the diet to work are equally as hard. If you hope to keep to your diet, lose weight and be healthier, you need to follow several important tips.
Select Healthy Foods
Your food selection does not need to be free of fats and carbohydrates like many of the dieting companies would like you to believe. What it does need to be is balanced, with nothing in excess, and made with only healthy ingredients.
Some of our regular foods today contain unhealthy levels of chemicals. These are not good for the body. It makes our organs work very hard to process unwanted ingredients in the foods. Organic foods eliminate unwanted minerals so we do not have them coming into our bodies. Healthy ingredients mean organic and natural foods. When we consume organic foods we improve our bodyâ€™s processes and help it to run smoothly. You will feel better and your body will be healthier.
Other Healthy Additives
In addition to maintaining a healthy and balanced diet, there are a number of different foods that, when added to your diet, will help improve your health:
- Green Tea â€“ Has caffeine like coffee but will not cause you to experience the crash afterwards. Also have a lot of antioxidants which help improve your heartâ€™s health.
- Fish â€“ Not for vegetarians, obviously, but fish have so many health benefits (including Omega-3 and protein) that if you can get it regularly, there are a number of benefits.
- Coffee â€“ Not for everyone, but some coffee every day has a number of health benefits and no consequences. Donâ€™t let coffee myths fool you â€“ as long as you donâ€™t drink coffee in excess, it is a healthy beverage.
Things Not to Do With Your Diet â€“ Dispelling Myths
In addition to all of the available diets, there are a variety of commonly held beliefs about how to improve your health and lose weight that are entirely false:
Skipping a Meal Will Help You Lose Weight
Many people that are maintaining a diet for weight loss often skip meals when they are not very hungry assuming it will help them lose weight. This is entirely false. Skipping a meal causes your metabolism to slow considerably. When you finally do eat again, you will gain more weight than you would have gained had you eaten the meal. Skipping meals is a terrible idea, and will only result in you gaining more weight as well as being less healthy.
Cheating is Okay
While no one really thinks that cheating on oneâ€™s diet is okay, many people do it anyway. By having a big dessert once every few days or binge eating on the rare occasion, the assumption is that it is okay because it is offset by your diet.
But if you have kept to your diet for a long time, then the binge eating will not be able to be processed by your metabolism and you will gain a great deal of weight. You are actually more likely to process these foods if you eat more regularly, as your body will be better equipped to deal with the excess sugars.
Water Needs to be Limited
Some people assume they will lose weight if they refrain from drinking a lot of water. Water can only benefit your weight loss, and it is a good way to allow you to feel full even when you have not eaten much, which will prevent you from eating in excess.
As you see from the above list, many people assume their metabolism is their enemy. But if you work with your metabolism (donâ€™t deny it food, eat at regular intervals, etc.) you are going to be able to keep it more active, process foods better, and your diet will be far more likely to work.
The key to your diet is choosing the right foods and keeping your metabolism healthy. If you do, you will lose weight and stay healthy without starving yourself.
Final Thoughts on Metabolism
Metabolism is not something you should take for granted. You can keep your metabolism high by lowering your stress and eating regularly. In addition, exercising and building your muscles causes your metabolism to increase. A high metabolism means better processing of food and a healthier and fit body. Keep to your diet. Avoid myths/misconceptions. Exercise so you stay as fit as you want to be.
About the Author
Winston Cole is very passionate about life. He views life as a journey and not a destination. Winstonâ€™s favorite hobby is traveling. He loves to go on Cruise ship vacations. He can help you if you are interested in contacting a cruise vacation planning guide.
Life can be beautiful but you have that power to make it so by your thoughts, actions and associations. Winston challenge is, every now and then, go and enjoy good scenery, eat well and exercise in pleasant surroundings. He suggests that you begin planning your cruise vacation. Who knows you may like it and discover something wonderful.
About a year ago I started running, but I don’t always enjoy it. So lately on Sunday morning I’m inviting my son if he wants to come along. He’s 8 so he can’t quite keep up (one day soon I’ll have trouble keeping up with him) but it’s about having fun together. Here’s what we’ve done to make our routine compatible:
- We run for as long as he can (I jog) then walk and talk then run when he’s able (he has good speed/stamina for his age). It’s not a full workout for me but I’m spending time with him and it’s fun time for us. Also people say this system of starting and stopping (interval training) may be more effective.
- I run, he bikes. He’s faster biking than running and he doesn’t have to take breaks. After one round of this I asked him if he wants to do another one (I usually do 2 rounds around the neighborhood) and he was enthusiastic.
- Maybe next time he’ll try rollerblading while I run.
I turned running time into a bonding experience. Balance is the key- I don’t try to push him because fun is the ultimate goal.
I’m not advocating starting a running routine. I’m advocating spending time together.
Doing everything with quality increases your chances for success, enhances your reputation and saves you time in the long run. People typically equate quality with skill, but quality is a by product of time, thoughts and systems.
So you want a promotion? There’s only one thing that you need to do to get your boss on you side- figure out what he wants. Give it to him. Make Sure he knows it. Then ask.
1. Give Your Boss What He Wants
A boss can want many things, but you need to think of the big picture. Let me start you off: he wants you to do your job well without bothering him. He wants you to do it so well that you and he get complimented. Most of all he wants you to solve problems- even those not recognized yet.
So you think you’re doing the above?
2. Get noticed
Forward some positive feedback emails to your boss (as you get them). Keep a folder with all your feedback so good things are on your mind should you need to bring it up. Act like you’re in customer service (even if you aren’t). Make sure your “client” is satisfied.
3. Make Your Move
Sometimes all you need to do is ask. Approach your boss and ask for a promotion. Set a time line and deliverable. Make sure your both in agreement on next steps. Now go get it!
If you dont think it’s moving well it may be time to look elsewhere…
It’s election day. There’s been so much negative talk and misinformation about both campaigns that it’s depressing.
The Solution on Who To Vote For
It would be great if there was a web site that listed the candidates in a grid and compared their positions objectively (in numbers or yes/no answers as much as possible) so you can say “I agree with this candidate” or “I agree with the other one” and you can decide based on the grid: “I choose candidate X”.
Throw Out Candidate Character
Character and personality is important when you have to live with the person. But even Mother Theresa would be shown to have a lowsy character in today’s politically charged environment. So how do you know what’s real or a media fabrication? I’d argue that if someone convinced his party and half the U.S. to vote for him then his personality is good enough- it’s just his positions that will bear out if he’ll be using it to go in the direction you want.
Actions Not Words
Don’t just go by the rhetoric. A candidate may say they are for a certain position but their voting or actions may show otherwise. The grid should reflect this- and hopefully cause the candidate to correct his actions or clarify his position.
Get Rid of the Lies
Every time a candidate mischaracterizes his opponent incorrectly- it should appear on this grid in a box for honesty as a negative point. After a whole campaign if one side is more lopsided than the other you should have some good data of who is more straight and who is fighting dirty. I’d hope that this would compel the candidates to stop this and focus on their issues- not negative campaigning.
In short, vote for who will bring you success and improve the world.
I don’t have any candidate in mind as I write any of this.
That was as political as you’ll see me, now back to work.
Ordinarily I don’t get into topics between the arms (heart) and stick to topics between the ears (brain). Lets face it, it’s easier (at least for me) to deal with something logical. If A then B- is simple. You can see results. But this time I want try and use the brain to control the heart.
There is one simple law to learn that will reduce stress: you can’t change others. Once you internalize this you can pick a strategy to overcome this stress and watch your productivity soar. You can choose to eliminate the stresser, change yourself or your perception.
You can (and should) control yourself, not others.
The other night I came home late so I wasn’t around to tuck my kids in. When I did get home I went to check on them- but I wanted them to know I did (because they ask sometimes). So I left a note.
My 5 year old is learning how to read so I left him a note “DAD LOVES <NAME>” in big bold letters. I purposely made it simple. He learned how to read “dad” recently. He recognizes his name and wrote “love” recently on a few birthday cards.
In the morning my 5 year old bounced out of his room all excited with his note and read it with a drop of help.